Are you dreading Valentine’s day? Do all those purring couples put you off your dinner? Or maybe you just don’t like to celebrate Valentine’s. You think it’s just a way for shops and restaurants to sell their wares. Perhaps you think Valentine’s is overrated? You think, surely you should show love to your partner every day? I’m here to show you 30 good reasons we should celebrate Valentine’s day. Whether cupids arrow has missed the mark for you lately or whether you’ve been with your partner so long that not only have you bought the tee shirt, but it’s replaced that slinky lacy nightgown as your sleepwear of choice.
The bottom line here is that to enjoy this day of love, grab anyone who is precious to you and celebrate. This year I’m taking my daughter out for lunch to a swanky Italian to people watch and nosh on pasta. I can’t wait! Besides, both our men are abroad right now so it makes sense. They’ll be no moping around while there’s tiramisu to be found. So, whether you are lucky enough to have a partner to hold every day or right now the only living thing you are enamoured by is your sweet faithful Labrador, here are some good reasons we ought to celebrate Valentine’s day.
- Much needed quality time – because it’s amazing how weeks roll into months and before you know it you have been too busy to really give your full attention to your partner for more than it takes for your phone to ping once again. So, a phone free evening is a real blessing, whatever the reason.
- A chance to make your loved one feel really special – it doesn’t have to be an expensive gift. Just a bag of toffees. But, it’s those toffees. You know, the toffees that trigger a wonderful memory from your shared past…
- A chance to put aside relationship problems – this is a tricky one. I’ve been with my husband for over 30 years and so there has been an occasional Valentine’s fail, when frankly I would have preferred an evening with emu than with him. However, after a cocktail or two and with both parties putting pride into storage for the night, it’s amazing how a bit a romance can remind you what a catch you have right there in the curry booth alongside you.
- You won’t waste time feeling jealous of all those love-birds – because you and your Labrador will be sharing a bag of carrots and a rerun of David Attenborough’s Planet Earth (a favourite of my Rosie pug). Or, you’ll have grabbed a best (available) friend and you’ll hit the town like only you two can. The point here is, there is always someone you love who would be thrilled to share quality time with you, even if it is brunch with your parents. What’s not to love!
- Reminiscing about your shared history – two minds are always better than one and it’s always a fun conversation when it starts with ‘Do you remember when…’
- There are discounts galore over Valentine’s day – from special menus to trinkets and events. Shower your partner with some material love.
- Feeling of gratitude – when you stop to consider the love you share.
- Wearing your best underwear – it’s tradition, isn’t it. It’s Valen-time to gently pull those beauties out from the back of your drawer and give them an outing.
- Rekindling romance – which can slip away from a couple before you can say ‘deadline’. Stop and get off that treadmill. You are allowed it’s Valentine’s day! Guys, try to find your inner Mr Darcy or Jack Dawson, or you girls, your inner Scarlett O’Hara. For once, romance is the priority.
- You shouldn’t care that it’s a made up holiday – they are all aren’t they?! Even Christmas! So, you might as well throw your self in. If you resent card manufacturers making a quick and easy buck, move straight to dinner.
- It doesn’t have to be expensive – small and thoughtful things can be just as good sometimes. Not always, let’s be honest. But, ‘thoughtful’ should be the first priority to a Valentine’s gift.
- It’s a chance to surprise you partner – ta da! Anyhoo, I’ll leave this bit to you.
- It’s a chance to remind each other that no matter what you will always be there for each other – no matter that the kids have exhausted me, no matter that I’m overwhelmed with my ‘to do’ list, no matter that this is a stupid holiday that I have to make time for, I’m here, because you are more important than all of that.
- It’s a chance to make that gorgeous looking cocktail you saw on P’Interest – if you need an excuse…
- You can do what you like – it’s not like Christmas, when the dinner is even decided for you! You don’t even have to go out. You can snuggle up with your favourite being in the cosiest Pjs you have and share a bowl of popcorn and a travel show. The only rule is, you spend it with someone you love, who loves you back. The rest is off script my friend.
- You can revel in the fact that people all over the world are celebrating the day of love the same time as you – well, it’s pretty amazing. Don’t think too deeply about it, ‘cos then it gets ucky.
- Taking the time out of our busy schedules just to look and your partner and purr sweet things at them – that’s rather lovely don’t you think? I can’t purr, but if you are blessed with a feline tongue, you should go for it.
- Because being loved is one of the best feelings in the world – so where ever that love come from, cherish it.
- It’s a great excuse to leave work on time – sorry boss, it’s Valentine’s day and I’m sharing it with someone other than you.
- It’s a chance not to cook – either book a restaurant you’ve been dying to try out, or get a takeaway with extra choices (and bubbly)(that can be bath or flute related).
- It’s a chance to cook – that recipe you’ve been wanting to try for ages. Now, with a slower evening and a glass of wine as an aid, it feels less of a chore and more of an event. Share with a love deserving of your efforts.
- A Valentine’s card is a lovely keep sake – I’ve kept every card my hubby has written me. But, I’m lucky as he revises the script due to his romantic nature. If you are this lucky, remember to keep them (mark the year on the back).
- February has been a month of romantic and fertility celebrations since pagan times – and it would be a shame to break with traditions.
- Heart shaped things are awesome – I’m a sucker for a heart shaped necklace. But honestly, give me a few bits of whicker twisted into a heart and I go weak at the knees.
- Getting a Valentine’s day card is cute – wisdom tells me that the way to approach it is with low expectations and then get wonderfully surprised (if it grosses you out, please let them down gently).
- Quality heart-shaped chocolate – when my kids were little I would leave them heart shaped chocolates on their beds at Valentine’s (because getting chocolate is awesome and should be encouraged).
- Getting ‘tipsy’ is expected – CHEERS to that!
- You might actually get a massage from your partner – to encourage this I would suggest an expensive bottle of massage oil amongst his gifts, then wear very little. Bingo.
- You don’t have to use the word love – ‘I really appreciate you’ ‘you make my world a better place’ ‘I can’t imagine not having you by my side’. All well intentioned ramblings are acceptable, if they come from the heart.
- It’s an intimate holiday – not like Easter or Christmas with their long guest lists. This is one for intimacy. It’s just you and me, belly laughing all night about our antics in Corfu.
So, there you have it, my 30 reasons we should celebrate Valentine’s day. After all, it is only one day a year. That makes it special enough to be something, doesn’t it? Darn, that could be number 31.
Remember you beauties, bask in the love you share, no matter who or where that love comes from.
I’m a sucker for a meal out, so here are my top romantic places to dine:
Canto Corvino, London – great lighting, slick and bustly.
Riverlight, Bourne End – by the river for a nice walk afterwards.
Red Lion pub, Horsell – cosy pub, good food and cocktails.
The Crazy Bear, Beaconsfield – sexy place.
Stovell’s, Chobham – Classy, cozy, excellent food.
The Chesil Rectory, Winchester – one of the oldest and most romantic restaurants.
The Seasons restaurant at The Four Seasons, Hampshire – smart and sophisticated.
Positano in Guildford – cosy Italian in a very old building.
Kinghams in Shere – gorgeous old pub, turned restaurant in a picture perfect village.
The Wellington Arms in Baughurst – great everything plus the best pub garden for miles!
The Royal Oak Paley Street – smart casual setting in an old property. Fantastic food and service.