So, how does it feel to be Father of the Bride before the Wedding day? The dad can easily be sidetracked as the soft hearted cash dispenser, while the Mother of the Bride gets all the fun of florist visits, make-up practice and bridal dress fittings. But, when you stop and think about it dads are heading into an event where tradition still has them handing over their Princess to another man. In modern times this can seem a little old fashioned, I know. Surely todays young bride is a strong independent being capable of surviving with out being given away or to any man? But wait… surely most dads are entitled to feel an emotional tear. And what about the speech, the dance, the credit card..?
So, you may know (probably from my Mother of the Bride duties on InstaStories) that my daughter Charlotte is getting married very soon, to a man we have all fallen for, and will, we are sure, live happily ever after. But, how is her dad doing in all this? With the wedding just a month or so away, I thought it was time to check in to see how this devoted dad was doing, to talk about his feelings and other things.
I’ve never interviewed my husband before. Not at all surprising. It would be a bit weird if I had, our first date was probably the last time. So, I’m not sure he will play ball. I tell him to not answer correctly but sincerely instead.
Charlotte and you have watched ‘Father of the Bride’ countless times together. How does it feel now it’s happening to you?
Scary, but I don’t know why. I am so happy for her and I love her husband to be. But, at the end of the day, call me old fashioned but she is my daughter so I will always want to look after her. I feel like she’ll be gone, although I know that makes no sense. (I’m pleased, he’s being authentic. That’s a good start)
You cried when I walked down the aisle on our Wedding day, how will you avoid being too emotional walking Charlotte down the aisle?
It is unavoidable, although less unexpected than on our wedding day when I thought it would be you (it was a bit of a shock for both of us) but it was me instead. I love my family more than anything. (he has me smiling broadly)
How will you style out the father-daughter dance?
Free style and fun. (very worrying)
You have so much to organise on the morning of the wedding while I’m getting my hair and makeup done, how will you cope without me?
I don’t know! You know that I’m a damn good multi-tasker (this fact has passed me by), but I suck at remembering things and planning (that bits true). I’m hoping that Charlotte is going to write me a schedule. But you know what they say, hope is not a strategy.
We’ve talked about being celebratory, not sloshed, how is your resolve?
I’ve been drunk at parties a few times, let’s say and it’s not pretty or clever. It also ends up in a very uncomfortable ‘morning after’ de-brief from the one I love (that would be me). It will be difficult as the nerves ebb and flow, but it is simply too important for Charlotte and I want her to feel proud of me. I’m looking forward to the afters drinks, when everyone has gone and we can reflect on the day and laugh and cry.
How is your credit card feeling?
Bloated! But actually not as much as I thought it would (he needs to take another look). Matthew and Charlotte are both very careful with money generally and not over expectant. Everyone has chipped in and I’ve always looked forward to supporting the kids at their wedding day anyhow! (cute)
We are there to celebrate their love for each other and not the drapes. (thankfully, I haven’t bought new drapes)
Your original speech was extraordinary, how is it coming along now?
Wow! Nice of you to say (he’s failed to pick up on my sarcasm), especially after the massive flop of draft one. Luckily, I made a good decision in preparing the speech months ahead. A rare event for me. It has meant that I have been able to relax and enjoy the run up to the wedding more, knowing that Charlotte will feel loved and proud when I stand there, without the blushes draft one would have caused! (his first speech was full of banter…!!)
Any advise for other Father of the Brides before the Wedding day?
That’s a tough one, because everyone is different and advising people on family matters, is a rocky road. My approach has been to focus on Charlotte and Matthew’s needs and priorities, and just be a supportive Dad.
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