Why we should be thanking Mother Nature in our Midlife

I’m going to tell you why we should be thanking Mother Nature in our Midlife.

Is it true that old is the new gold? If it is, then I would put it down to Mother Nature, who gets a bad press, but to me has this midlife thing pretty sussed.

Midlife is when Mother Nature grabs you by the shoulders and cries ‘Shits getting serious, so use the gifts you’ve been given’.

The gifts we have earnt include wisdom, patience, acceptance and bravery. But, there are some other bonuses you may not have thought about…

 

Why We Should Be Thanking Mother Nature In Midlife

 

The difficult transition from blossom to seed is undeniable, hormone mayhem is not for the weak.

But Mother Nature has compensated us – we just have to put down our hand held fans and de-frizz hairspray for a moment to notice.

Because it’s too easy to concentrate on the hardships that being a women at the menopausal stage heaps on us. Instead, let’s take a minute thanking Mother Nature…

Acceptance

 

Midlife brain fuzz is Mother Nature’s way of telling you it’s time for some self care.

It’s time to reevaluate what a Super Woman is.

You may no longer be able to keep the house, garden, pets and yourself neat at the same time. Some dishevelment becomes acceptable.

Mother Nature forces you to stop.

She literally stops the over exertion at the thinking stage.

At times, you can be blissfully unaware you have a mountain of things to achieve that day – you are in a fog and you won’t start to panic until you are out of it and realise you missed the dogs worming tablets by a week.

So what’s so good about brain fog? Well, it’s rubbish actually, but it does stop you working yourself so hard that you break. Let’s leave that for the Spring chickens.

 

Wisdom

Eventually Mother Nature softens your self judgements (MN – this would have been lovely earlier, but we’ll let that pass) and you start to give up the idea of who you are supposed to be and start loving who you really are.

You can lose yourself as a young woman trying to please everyone else. When you reach the mature side of womanhood you begin to except that ‘perfect’ is a flawed concept.

You may think you behaved perfectly to only realise you’ve wound someone right up. You think you’ve organised a perfectly decadent party only to find a few of your guests are bored senseless.

If you try to please everyone, you please no-one – you might as well be yourself then right?!

Patience

 

When I was young I was clever and a perfectionist. I wanted the whole world to be better. Now I’m older, I still wish the world was better – but I’m wiser now and know a better world starts with a better me.

Another reason for thanking Mother Nature is she takes away much of that energy that gets wasted on people who have made your life difficult. Instead, in later years you relent and patiently listen to their complaints without the need to fix the unfixable.

Bravery

Just think ‘What would you do if you wasn’t afraid’.

By midlife, we have all been through some fairly traumatic stuff. You start to look at the things you used to be afraid of and wonder what the deal was. After all, by now you have survived far worse.

Mother Nature is grabbing you by the ears and yelling ‘tick tock you beauty – make it count!’.

We might as well live life fully in this season we are in – because we won’t get it back again!

What would you do, if you wasn't afraid?

Thanking Mother Nature – bonus benefits!

Let’s be honest girls, as our jowls get looser and our arses get lower, when the passion takes hold it is a gift that our ageing partners see us in soft focus. Thank you sincerely for that one MN.

Mother Nature tells you later in life that, ‘You no longer have to be cool, it’s fine’ and now I can do things like sing (very badly) to my old Labrador, who adores musical theatre, no matter who has come to visit.

I’ve not got all this sussed out – I want the confidence to dance like my Aunties and mum who look free and blissful on the dance floor. I want to be wise enough to slow down. I still want to be so much. But with Mother Nature’s help I’m getting there.

So, although the idea might be to ‘die young… as late as possible’. Perhaps it is better to ‘die mature… as late as possible’ and I’m thanking Mother Nature for it.

PIN! x

 

I'm going to tell you why we should be thanking Mother Nature in our Midlife. Is it true that old is the new gold? If it is, then I would put it down to Mother Nature, who gets a bad press, but to me has this midlife thing pretty sussed. Midlife is when Mother Nature grabs you and cries 'Shits getting serious, so use the gifts you've been given'. The gifts we have earnt include wisdom, patience, acceptance and bravery. But, there are some other bonuses you may not have thought about...

 

Your turn! What reasons are you thanking Mother Nature? I’d love to know.

 

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46 Comments

  1. Andy
    October 30, 2017 / 8:13 am

    Well said Honey👍🎉And super well written. I am so proud of who you are and who you are becoming!! Great pics too 😉 😜😘

    • Maria Kelly
      October 30, 2017 / 8:37 am

      Thank you my darling. I have a great photographer – lovely man xxx

  2. October 30, 2017 / 8:25 am

    ha ha this is so true!! The singing and the mum dancing! I feel like I can let my body throw out any shapes it wants to now and not have a care in the world! x #familyfun

    • Maria Kelly
      October 30, 2017 / 8:42 am

      Haha – just when being cool slips through our fingers Mother Nature says ‘forget it, you don’t care anymore’ – I think that’s awesome! x

  3. October 30, 2017 / 7:35 pm

    I love, love, LOVE THIS! We really do spend a lot of time worrying over nothing and missing the good stuff. I already know things in my thirties that I wish I had known in my twenties. Make every second count, Mother Nature is very right xxx

    • Maria Kelly
      October 30, 2017 / 8:12 pm

      Haha I’m chuffed to bits you’ve enjoyed this so much! The wonderful thing about ageing is that Mother Nature takes with one hand BUT gives with the other xxx

      • November 5, 2017 / 11:59 pm

        So very true! Popping back from #HoneybbeLinky xxx

        • Maria Kelly
          November 6, 2017 / 6:55 am

          Thank you Lucy xxx

  4. October 30, 2017 / 8:38 pm

    I love this. So very true.

    • Maria Kelly
      October 31, 2017 / 7:41 am

      Thank you Briony, I’m glad you enjoyed it x

  5. November 2, 2017 / 12:11 pm

    I love your positive outlook. It’s worth bearing all this in mind as I dread the next century! Thanks for joining us at #TriumphantTales, hope to see you again next week. X

    • Maria Kelly
      November 2, 2017 / 6:12 pm

      I used to dread being older – but now I’ve learnt that something changes in you and you have an acceptance to it – and there are definitely positives to getting older too! x

  6. November 2, 2017 / 8:53 pm

    You gotta laugh about some of this stuff, right? As for brain fog…man, that’s doing my head in. I need to have a good stern talking to Mother Nature about that one. #TeamLovinLife

    • Maria Kelly
      November 5, 2017 / 6:12 am

      The brain fog is the worse!! haha x

  7. November 3, 2017 / 12:51 am

    Great blog post. Especially love tick tick you beauty-make it count. So true time is a ticking and you must do what makes your heart sing in life.

    • Maria Kelly
      November 5, 2017 / 6:14 am

      haha Thank you Julie. Yes, life is too short! x

  8. November 3, 2017 / 3:38 am

    I have to admit I’m far more ‘zen’ about things now I’m older (nearly 50). Everything you mention, but particularly the concept of ‘acceptance’ is a big one for me. In terms of accepting others, the way things are and myself.

    I think patience comes with age as well. You know if something is meant to happen it probably will happen (or you have to make it happen). #teamlovinlife

    • Maria Kelly
      November 5, 2017 / 6:16 am

      Yes, Mother nature takes with one hand but gives with the other – and patience and acceptance are pretty good tools x

  9. November 3, 2017 / 4:26 am

    Hi Maria! I think this is my first visit to your blog (via the Lovin’ Life Linky) – so pleased to meet you, sounds like we have a very similar outlook on life. I’m now following you on FB and IG x

    • Maria Kelly
      November 5, 2017 / 6:17 am

      Hi Janet! Lovely to meet you too – I’ll be sure to follow you back! xx

  10. November 3, 2017 / 5:48 pm

    This is such a positive post Maria, so thank you. I have found that since I have turned 45, life is harder physically but I agree that I have more patience and more understanding of life. Things that used to bother me such as makeup being just right or a bit of a midriff just don’t anymore! I am finding this perimenopause hard though it has to be said so I’m off to Read your post about it! Thank you. #thatfridaulinky

    • Maria Kelly
      November 5, 2017 / 6:26 am

      Peri-menopause is really tough! The symptoms are so varied and debilitating. I found HRT a tremendous help and I’m currently feeling healthier than I have in years x

  11. November 4, 2017 / 12:40 pm

    Always good to find the positives in getting that bit older! If I may say, you ooze style in these pics love it. Thanmks for linking up #Blogstravaganza

    • Maria Kelly
      November 5, 2017 / 6:28 am

      Thank you Sharon – you may say – thank you, you’ve made my day! x

  12. November 4, 2017 / 7:50 pm

    I found myself nodding away as I read this. There’s definitely something to be said about getting older and wiser! I love how you write too, such a lovely read this evening! Thanks so much for sharing with #Blogstravaganza xx

    • Maria Kelly
      November 5, 2017 / 6:37 am

      Thank you my lovely, I so appreciate your kind words xx

  13. November 5, 2017 / 8:22 am

    What an interesting read well done you Thank you for linking to #ThatFridayLinky Please come back next week

    • Maria Kelly
      November 5, 2017 / 4:30 pm

      I’m so glad you enjoyed it! x

  14. November 5, 2017 / 6:22 pm

    Ah I can relate to the wisdom part. It’s true we can’t please everyone. #TriumphantTales

    • Maria Kelly
      November 6, 2017 / 6:45 am

      Hi Helena. Absolutely, but it takes until our older years to realise pleasing everyone is futile x

    • Maria Kelly
      November 6, 2017 / 6:51 am

      I’m so pleased getting older is a topic of conversation now. I thought you were meant to be in your 50’s before midlife started, so it was a bit of a shock. But there are positives that should be celebrated too… x

    • Maria Kelly
      November 7, 2017 / 5:20 am

      Thank you, that’s kind of you to say x

  15. November 6, 2017 / 8:52 am

    Right on Maria! I think midlife is definitely that time in your life where you reach self-acceptance and not giving a toss of what anyone else thinks. Your chocolate Lab is adorable! #TeamLovinLife

    • Maria Kelly
      November 7, 2017 / 5:28 am

      Thank you Kathy. Our ‘old bear’ has a heart of gold x

  16. November 6, 2017 / 8:23 pm

    Oh yes! There’s definitely something about getting older that makes you focus on pleasing yourself rather than worrying about other people. I know when I was younger I used to obsess about what other people thought of me, it would keep me awake at night, but now I think if they don’t like me, that’s fine! Thanks for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

    • Maria Kelly
      November 7, 2017 / 5:36 am

      Absolutely – it makes the whole thing a lot more bearable haha! x

  17. November 7, 2017 / 8:37 pm

    I loved reading this and everything you have written is so true. I agree that as we get older we see the world in a different light, and stop caring (I’m not sure that’s the right word) as much, but instead want to dedicate more time to doing things that make you happy. Thanks so much for linking up at #fortheloveofBLOG. Claire x

    • Maria Kelly
      November 8, 2017 / 6:55 am

      It’s a tricky business getting older isn’t it – but it is so fortunate that we gain the ability to chill out and enjoy the ride x

  18. November 9, 2017 / 10:12 am

    Loved this Maria – it spoke to me on many levels. Especially the brain fog one! I agree, we just can’t do as much or keep things as neat and tidy or in order as we used to, and Mother Nature has ways and means of getting us to slow down. Great post. Thanks for finding me by the way, via #lovinlifelinky 🙂

    • Maria Kelly
      November 10, 2017 / 6:53 am

      It’s nice to meet you Jo x Yes we really don’t have much choice in the getting old scenario – but it’s not all so bad haha x

  19. November 21, 2017 / 10:32 am

    Wow! You and your post are truly motivating and inspiring, Maria. So glad that you learned and decided to appreciate nature.

    • Maria Kelly
      November 21, 2017 / 12:39 pm

      Thank you so much for your comment Agness. Nature takes with one hand but gives with another, don’t you think? x

  20. November 21, 2017 / 5:17 pm

    I appreciate what you’ve written here. I feel like a lot of my friends (those ranging from early 40s to early 50s) won’t even use the term “middle age” to refer to themselves. And I’m thinking, “Ummm….do the math. It’s here!” We should be thinking about the changes in our bodies, our minds, our selves, and learning to celebrate them.

    • Maria Kelly
      November 22, 2017 / 6:48 am

      Yes, what’s to be ashamed of? It’s all part of life’s cycle. Society celebrates youth, but every generation is beautiful for different reasons! x